It is difficult to know where to turn when faced with divorce or relationship breakdown.
Dealing with the emotional turbulence the process entails, and having to think about the associated financial matters and arrangements for children, can be overwhelming. It is essential for anyone who finds themselves in this position to seek legal advice at the earliest opportunity. In my experience, the fear of the unknown is often the biggest anxiety people grapple with initially, when divorce becomes a reality. A good family lawyer can help allay those fears and help to find a solution that works for you and your family.
From your very first meeting, your lawyer should make you feel at ease. You will have to discuss very sensitive and personal matters with them and as such, it is important that you feel comfortable and able to speak freely. It is essential that your lawyer uses terms you understand, free of legal jargon, and gives you a good indication from the outset as to timescales, costs and the likely outcome of your matter. Once you are clear on these issues, you will feel a greater sense of control and thus find the process easier to deal with.
While it is natural to react emotionally to separation, you should always bear in mind the impact this can have in the longer term, particularly where children are involved. I cannot stress enough the importance of “keeping the heat down” during the process. Contrary to popular belief, divorce is not a punitive process and ultimately, behaviour is rarely relevant to children or financial matters. Lawyers should adopt a conciliatory and non-confrontational approach when corresponding with the other party or their solicitors. Sadly, not all family lawyers subscribe to this ethos, which often leads to further acrimony and unnecessary legal costs.
I am a member of Resolution, an organisation committed to the constructive resolution of family disputes.
I have exclusively practised family law for the last 15 years, dealing with matters from the straightforward to the highly complex. My experience in this field is not limited to being in a professional context. As a divorced Mother of two, I have a real insight into the challenges people face, during what is often the most difficult time of their lives. As a resident of South Bucks, I have good local knowledge of schools, property and other matters that will be relevant to consider upon divorce. I offer high quality, realistic and down to earth advice, ensuring that expectations are managed properly from the outset. I pride my practice on building an excellent rapport with my clients, achieving the best outcomes and helping to pave the way for a future beyond divorce.
If you would like to discuss any family matter with me, I can offer a free initial 30-minute, no obligation meeting at our Chalfont St Giles office.
Please contact my assistant, Chloe Judge on 01494 870075 to arrange a mutually convenient appointment.
LLB Hons – Solicitor
Head of Family Department
Cartmell & Co Solicitors